A column by Master Ferdok about his way to live the sm with brain and heart.
I am 47 years old and I am from north-western germany. I am located in a very small city called Leer(Ostfriesland). It’s close to the dutch border. Our next bigger cities are Bremen which is at the same time my nearest airport and Emden. I am married since almost 5 years and I live openly gay. I own a house at the country side here in north-western germany without direct neighbours. My next neighbour is about 100 meters away from my property.
I am into SM for more than 25 years now. I always was a master, active and dominant and sadistic by nature. Let’s start with a very stupid thing I hear over and over again: “You can only be a good master if you have started as a slave”. Sorry but that’s bullshit. All you need to be a good master is a working brain to be able to watch your slaves how they handle things. So don’t let noone tell you that bullshit sentence. It’s simply rubbish.
Every once in a while people ask me what I like and what turns me on. Usually I am tired to answer those questions cause you just need to look at my blog and you can answer it yourself but today I feel like in a mood to write a bit about it. My favourite tool is the bullwhip. I like to tie slaves up in a spreadeagled position and to whip them. It turns me on to see the whip impacting on a slaves body. It turns me on to see the body reacting to the inflicted pain. I like to see how the muscles react and I am curious how much a new slave can take.
I like it rough and extreme. But whatever I do I always do it safe, sane and responsible.
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Dear fetish lovers,
The question is when is the right time to make your first experiences? The more I think about it the more it’s my answer that you should start as young as possible, of course precondition is that you have the legal age.
In these almost 30 years that I am a well known member of the European SM-scene I have chatted with a lot of people and I have heard thousand different stories. And some stories are absolutely unbelieveable!
Here are the ones most heard:
- Fulfilling expectations: Some men/boys grow up in a non ideal environment. Their parents expect that they find a wife and have children. So the pressure is that high that they really spend years or even decades with fulfilling these expectations. And finally after having succeeded to find a wife and to have children they suddenly find out that they aren’t happy at all.
- Making a career: There is school, high-school, college or university and than the job. Yes, it is important to have a good education and to have a background that gives you the possibility to get a good job whenever you are in need of it. But sooner or later you have to decide whether you want to earn big money or if you also want to spend some time in making yourself happy by satisfying your own desires and needs. One thing is for sure: Money can’t buy you youth or time.
- My job doesn’t allow me to be out of the closet: Really? So what job can that be that doesn’t allow you to be who and what you really are for years or even decades? There is NO job that makes it necessary to hide and to suppress your needs and wishes. We live in the 3rd millennium. Nowadays politicians can be officially gay. The same is valid for the fashion industry, sports and CEOs of big companys. And if you think about it for a minute we are back at Nr.1. This is nothing else than fulfilling expectations you THINK other people might have. The reality mostly is that your environment already suspected that you are gay and they are just waiting for you to do the first step and get out of the closet.
- I have doubts and fears and need to think about it. Okay, it’s totally understandable if you need time to find yourself and to be aware about your own needs and desires. But pls don’t let this stop you to start to collect experiences. I really had chats with persons that went on for years! They always told me about doubts and fears and these kind of thoughts made them be like paralyzed and they wasted years and years to think about all what they saw or read about SM and suddenly they were so old that they had big time problems to find a master at all.
- There is no/never has been a master in my area. Really? Than get your little as moved and start to explore the world. It is unlikely that the right master for you will be just around the corner. Probably it’s not even in the same city. Journeys aren’t that expensive at all. If you book train or plane tickets on time you have best conditions and get really cheap prices. Example: My nearest airport is Bremen. It’s not a big airport but it has flights from Ryan Air. From London Stansted you get super cheap flights to germany. And this is valid for whole Europe and even intercontinental flights you can get cheap if you just book early enough. And it’s the same with railway tickets. Even I have to move my ass to pick up slaves from airports and it’s no problem for me to drive to Bremen, Hannover or to Amsterdam (Schiphol) to pick up international slaves.
To make a long story short: Don’t wait too long!
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