A kinky column by Master Ferdok about his way to live the sm with brain and heart.
Dear fetish lovers,
Unbelieveable that there are still people who really believe that they could successfully suppress the natural desires that are inside of them. I have already written about it and it seems that this is a never ending story. So let me talk about this again.
You have to understand that being a slave or the wish to become enslaved or dominated in general is a part of your nature. It is NOT something perverse. EVERY human being either likes to dominate or to be dominated. And it doesn’t matter if you are gay or heterosexual or a man or a woman. It doesn’t matter if you are old or young, experienced or a complete newbie in the SM scene. These feelings are part of who you are. It is in your genes and you will never ever succeed if you try to suppress this feelings and desires. So please don’t even try it. In the long run all you will get is sexual frustration.
I am into the SM scene since almost 30 years. I have met hundreds of boys and men that I trained or owned and I have never ever met anyone who would have told me that he was successful with suppressing his needs and desires. It simply does NOT work.
And this is A FACT!
Start to accept what is inside of you. Start to accept the feelings and desires that you have and for gods sake start to let it out and to live it. Chat with likeminded people and you will soon see that you are NOT the only one who has those feelings and desires. There are hundreds of boys and men like you, even thousands, even millions. And after you chatted with likeminded people do the next step and meet with likeminded people. And after that do the next step and chat with people who can probably help you to live it out. If you are a slave start to chat with doms or masters and if you are a master start to chat with slaves or subs.
These feelings are natural and they need to be let out under a controlled environment. What happens if you try to suppress it for years? Sooner or later you will explode and than what? You gonna rape somebody because you never had an other chance to get what you need? Or do you really want to become an old and grumpy frustrated person?
Wake up, use your brain and even the best: Become happy and satisfied. It is nothing bad to have these feelings. It is nothing evil to feel like you do. It’s NORMAL!
It makes me so mad when I hear or read these stories over and over again. What the fuck is the problem to let it out and to become happy? Do you think that heterosexuals don’t have this feelings? Daily thousands of men visit prostitutes and pay money to have their “bad and secret” wishes be fulfilled. These men are the best example of what you might become if you don’t accept your desires or try to suppress them. Let it out with likeminded people and fuck off about what your family could think or your neighbours or who the fuck ever.
We do live in the third millennium. You have the possibility to meet people who feel like you. Use the internet!
There are hundreds of websites about SM. Visit them. Read forums, read blogs and for gods sake learn to accept who and what you are.
You DON’T have bad or evil feelings.
You are NOT a sick person with a sick mind. And you are surely NOT a pervert.
You are NOT the only one who feels like this.
Really, it is in our genes. We are what we are.
Just start to accept it and let it out with likeminded people in a safe and controlled environment and you will become happy like never ever before.
I wish all my followers a happy weekend and take care and stay open for new and fantastic experiences.
I am 47 years old and I am from north-western germany. I am located in a very small city called Leer(Ostfriesland). It’s close to the dutch border. Our next bigger cities are Bremen which is at the same time my nearest airport and Emden. I am married since almost 5 years and I live openly gay. I own a house at the country side here in north-western germany without direct neighbours. My next neighbour is about 100 meters away from my property.
I am into SM for more than 25 years now. I always was a master, active and dominant and sadistic by nature. Let’s start with a very stupid thing I hear over and over again: “You can only be a good master if you have started as a slave”. Sorry but that’s bullshit. All you need to be a good master is a working brain to be able to watch your slaves how they handle things. So don’t let noone tell you that bullshit sentence. It’s simply rubbish.
Every once in a while people ask me what I like and what turns me on. Usually I am tired to answer those questions cause you just need to look at my blog and you can answer it yourself but today I feel like in a mood to write a bit about it. My favourite tool is the bullwhip. I like to tie slaves up in a spreadeagled position and to whip them. It turns me on to see the whip impacting on a slaves body. It turns me on to see the body reacting to the inflicted pain. I like to see how the muscles react and I am curious how much a new slave can take.
I like it rough and extreme. But whatever I do I always do it safe, sane and responsible.
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