A column …
Personal thoughts of a sadistic Master
Last weekend I had a visit from a beautiful boy from Berlin. He is originally from polish descent. He was tall, slim, very polite, well educated, absolutely willing to serve and to suffer for me and abo0ve all he had wonderful big nipples. This boy was not an absolute beginner but at the same time he did not meet too many masters before, so that I could introduce him to some new things of the bdsm-world. I introduced him to the bullwhip and also to some electro play. And I have to admit he really took it all so well. I hope that I will see that boy again in my dungeon.
During one of the breaks from our intense sessions I asked him about what he would like to read in sadosam and he answered he would like to read an article about first meetings and the responsibility of the the master. So that´s what this week’s column is about.
Usually every slave and sub is very nervous about the first meeting with a master he never met before or just knows from chats. And that is an absolutely normal thing. But what can you do to make yourself feel better before a first meeting?
The most important thing for you is to get as much information about the man you want to meet as possible. Make sure that you know at least his full name and his complete address, if possible with his phone numbers. You also shouldn´t hesitate to ask for actual pics from the man you are going to meet. From my own experience I can tell you that it is important to ask for actual pics. I had a chat not too long ago with a guy from England who had pics in his recon profile that were taken when he was in his early twenties. The thing was that he was now in his early forties and totally changed his look. I have to admit that I didn´t look at his age because I have this deep believe that if someone puts a picture in his profile he uses actual ones and not pictures that are more than 25 years old. But that clearly shows you never stop learning.
If you have the information I talked about before you should give this information to a friend of yours before you meet that man. This will not protect you from making bad experiences but at least a third person knows where you are. And you should also ask your friend to call you regularly on the phone or agree with your friend that you will do regular calls with him. If you do it this way you will have a much better feeling because you can control the situation a bit. If the man you are going to meet is genuine he will have no problems with this agreement and let you do the calls.
Another important thing is to make sure you will not get into situations you can´t handle is that you tell the man you are going to meet about all healthy issues you might have. This could for example be the fact that you need to take regular medications. May it be that you are diabetic or that you have problems with your blood pressure or that you need to follow a special diet. A responsible master will definitely ask you all the things in a chat before the first meeting is about to happen but just in case he doesn´t it´s your responsibility to inform the other person before the first meeting takes place.
Another important thing is to tell that person you are going to meet about your real experience so far. It´s not a problem if you are an absolute beginner but you should never do the mistake to tell that you can take treatments you never experienced before. I can only give you the advice to be absolutely open and honest about your experience, about the things that turn you on and the things that you would like to be introduced to. But please try to be realistic about the things that are possible. We all have our extreme wanking fantasies in which we like it hard, extreme and brutal but not everything you fantasize about can be turned into a reality during your first meeting.
TPE – Total Power Exchange
It´s your goal to become a permanently owned slave or to find a master for Total Power Exchange (TPE)? That´s great. But it´s very unlikely that you will find a responsible master that agrees to take you and keep you without ever having met you before. Especially TPE is a part of the bdsm world that needs to be developed over time and that needs responsible persons from both sides. If a master is willing to take care of you and make you his property it means that he will decide every little aspect about your life. He will decide when you eat, what you eat, where you sleep, when you sleep, what you will wear for clothes and so on. But of course, the more important thing about TPE is that the man who will control your life is also responsible for your future life. That means that he has to take care of your social security and about your health security also. That usually means that your future owner will have to spend some money on you. You will need a social insurance that will take care of the time you will spend without a job and he will also have to spend money to get you a health insurance. All the things are part of the responsibility a master has when he things about to go with a TPE relationship with a possible slave. Ans all the things are the reason why you will probably never find a responsible and sane master who will agree to take you right away as his property. These things must be developed over a long, long time and there has to be an absolute matching chemistry between the master and the slave. So, if you are searching for a matching master for TPE make sure you chose the right one. It has to be one who knows about his responsibilities and who is sane and genuine. At the same time, I want to give you the advice that if you want to go the way of TPE do not wait until you are in your fifties. The best age to go the way of TPE is between 16 and 35, at least that´s the experience I made so far in my 32 years as a Master.
Another responsibility that you as a slave have is to make sure that you don´t bring any problems to your possible owner if you want to become his permanent property. I wrote about this before in a column from May 2016 with the title 24/7 (things that don´t work), but I will repeat the things I wrote in that column before. Some slaves still have the idea that simply vanishing into slavery is something that will work. Of course, this is totally nonsense. At least as long as you still have family members who love you and who care about you. What will happen if you just vanish? Well in most cases sooner or later family members will start to search for you. And sooner or later the police will be involved. Because your family members really want to find you they will be ok with having your pc or other electronic devices searched by the police to get any helpful hints or information about what’s going on with you. And if that happens the police will probably find chats or exchanged mails between you and your master/owner. And the consequence is always that there will be interrogations and other complications that neither you or your new master wants and needs. So please act responsible about your family members.
Another thing that doesn’t work is running away from debts. If you own money to a bank, no matter if it is a simple credit or a mortgage for a house you can’t run from it. The bank will do anything to find you and to get the money you own to them. Nearly the same things as I wrote before will happen. Sooner or later police will get involved. Banks always want their money back and they will not stop to search for you until they have found you. So please be responsible about your debts.
All these points that I mentioned above make it necessary that a TPE relationship needs to be developed over time and if you find a responsible master who is also interested to have a TPE relationship with you he will help you to overcome all the obstacles that might lay ahead of you. A TPE relationship needs responsibility from both sides but it is worth it to give it a try. Don´t let all your fears and worries paralyze you. Have the balls to test it. Try to find a matching master if it is your dream to make a TPE relationship a reality. It is worth it. Another thing you might have to think about is what can be done to make you become a permanent resident of the EU if you aren´t from an EU country. If you want to become owned and if you want to have social security and health security, it is needed that as soon as your 90 days visa expires you don´t become a person with an illegal status. Imagine you get ill or have an accident and you need to get treatment in a hospital. You know that you have to give data to doctors sooner or later and you can imagine what problems might occur if your data get checked and your expired visa is detected?! The same thoughts are of course valid for the US and any other country in this world. Of course, I created some extreme situations in this article, but I think it is better to think extreme and get into normal situations than thinking about normal situations and get into extremes. So whatever way you will chose just be responsible and look for responsible partners and then this wonderful world of BDSM will provide lots of fun for you.
May all my readers have a great weekend and take care.