Our Reader’s Chastity Experiences
SubTom | 1991 | 165 cm | 58 kg | Melbourne (AU)
Giving up control is a sensation that just gets me super excited.
SubTom on Tumblr.
sadOsam: Are you a sub/slave/faggot?
SubTom: I’d say that I am a submissive. I enjoy the aspect of being controlled, told what to do and when, and the idea of dressing up to the needs of different tops. I am not a masculine person and like to embrace this. This comes out further in that I like dressing up in feminine clothing, latex outfits, and being physically restricted whether that be through restraints, hoods, masks, or headphones.
sadOsam: What’s your motivation for being in chastity?
SubTom: Giving up control is a sensation that just gets me super excited. Which you could say is a bit ironic but what I mean is that being at the whim/control of another individual is what gives me the most pleasure. Losing a form of identity which is your cock is the best way to control me, it puts me in a new state of mind that makes me enjoy everything about what I am required to do.
sadOsam: How long have you been into chastity?
SubTom: 5-7 years I have been interested. The exact start point is difficult to determine because I liked the idea of restriction. I used to do a bit of self bondage that restricted me touching my cock and when I saw photos and then videos online, that is what I wanted. I have had a cage for approx. 2 years now with many different kinds trying to find the right fit.
sadOsam: What device do you wear?
SubTom: My favourite is a steel cage that has bars so it is easy to clean while on and allows for good air flow. I started with a cb6000s and still love it except has to come off often for cleaning. I am currently wearing a new full chastity belt from ebay. It is more a trial to see how it fits and what I will need to properly look for down the track.
sadOsam: Are you locked 24/7?
SubTom: When I have my extended sessions I am locked 24/7 but that is only when I have more time off or with a strict owner. I am a nurse that sometimes you just have days that you wish you didn’t have one on but doesn’t cause issues otherwise. I do love more permanent/strict time periods but when there isn’t someone controlling your every move, it can sometimes be difficult.
sadOsam: Do you have a keyholder?
SubTom: I do not currently have a keyholder and online stuff just doesn’t tickle my fancy. Maybe that is just because I haven’t found the right person or the right tasks.
sadOsam: What’s the longest you’ve gone locked?
SubTom: 21 days with periods of cleaning with that. I had a wet dream with it but no touching otherwise.
sadOsam: Don’t you miss masturbating/cumming while locked up?
SubTom: Initially yes but that passes except for the occasional period of hormones flowing through the body. I still get amazing sensations from other ways that actually gives me just as much pleasure. Being locked makes everything else hypersensitive, and when you add physical restriction to that…yes
sadOsam: How often are you allowed to cum?
SubTom: When it is just me, I try to extend for as long as possible. This time frame fluctuates substantially but typically lasts about a week on average.
sadOsam: What were some of the problems you’ve had with chastity devices and how did you solve them?
SubTom: Correct fittings was the biggest at the start. I found a ring that works perfectly so it makes finding another cage really easy now. The next was hygiene and the best way to manage that. Certain cages just made humid boxes that aren’t ideal for anyone which is why the steel cage is my favourite.
One of the other big ones is night time erections. This was just a time thing. Not much I could do about that until I got used to the sensation
sadOsam: What are some of the positive effects of chastity you’ve noticed?
SubTom: Oh I am sure the way I please others has certainly improved. I would say that when I come home now I think about other things rather than porn. Get more tasks done as a whole as a result. If I do get a burst of horniess I know there is no escape so just get on with what I should be doing.