A column by Master Ferdok about his way to live the sm with brain and heart. (Cause of technical problems we publish this article a day later, sorry.)
I am 47 years old and I am from north-western germany. I am located in a very small city called Leer(Ostfriesland). It’s close to the dutch border. Our next bigger cities are Bremen which is at the same time my nearest airport and Emden. I am married since almost 5 years and I live openly gay. I own a house at the country side here in north-western germany without direct neighbours. My next neighbour is about 100 meters away from my property.
I am into SM for more than 25 years now. I always was a master, active and dominant and sadistic by nature. Let’s start with a very stupid thing I hear over and over again: “You can only be a good master if you have started as a slave”. Sorry but that’s bullshit. All you need to be a good master is a working brain to be able to watch your slaves how they handle things. So don’t let noone tell you that bullshit sentence. It’s simply rubbish.
Every once in a while people ask me what I like and what turns me on. Usually I am tired to answer those questions cause you just need to look at my blog and you can answer it yourself but today I feel like in a mood to write a bit about it. My favourite tool is the bullwhip. I like to tie slaves up in a spreadeagled position and to whip them. It turns me on to see the whip impacting on a slaves body. It turns me on to see the body reacting to the inflicted pain. I like to see how the muscles react and I am curious how much a new slave can take.
I like it rough and extreme. But whatever I do I always do it safe, sane and responsible.
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Dear fetish lovers,
This week I will present you something different. This weeks column is not directly about sex but about a tool you could spice your sex up with. Songs about sex. Hope you like it a bit and I promise next week it’s about pure sex again! ?
“Master & Servant” (Depeche Mode, 1984)
Already Depeche Mode sung about it in 1984. I guess a lot of my followers weren’t even born yet. The whole song “Master & Servant” is brilliant but there is this one part of the text, nearly at the end of the song that I like so very much.
The part goes like this:
“Domination’s the name of the game
In bed or in life
They’re both just the same…”
And this is so true. This describes perfectly how I see it. I absolutely believe that this is how the world is divided. From my point of view there are only masters or slaves. I don’t believe that there really is something like a 50/50 person. Each one must have a preference. Either in one way or the other way.
Let’s talk about it where it is most obvious that I am probably right. Sex in bed. I don’t know any person that likes to fuck and to be fucked in the same way. During all these years I met hundreds of people, probably even thousands and there was not a single one who would have loved both with the same intensity. Each one either loves to fuck or to get fucked. And there is nothing in between.
And it’s the same in life. Some of us like to lead and to rule and some like it more to follow and to be ruled. And you know what? It’s absolutely perfect that it is like that. This is how life is. Either one way or the other. The question is just to be aware of what you want for yourself.
Sometimes songs even have great advices. Best example?
“Relax” (Franky goes to Hollywood, 1984)
This text part says it all and no more words are needed. “Relax, don’t do it, when you wanna come…”
Another very obvious song of what it’s about is “I want you sex” from George Michael (1987)
By the way it seems the 80s had lots of fantastic songs about sex and it’s variations.
Part of the text from this song goes like this:
“What’s your definition of dirty baby / What do you consider pornography / Don’t you know i love you till it hurts me …
And now that we talk about love and pain suddenly this song pops up in my mind.
“Cripple and the starfish” from Antony & the Johnsons.
The text is pretty clear itself:
“Mr Muscle forcing bursting stingy thingy into little me, me, me/ …It’s true I always wanted love to be hurtful/ And it’s true I always wanted love to be filled with pain and bruises”
So you see that even bands and artists know that love and pain belong together.
“Dancing with myself” (Billy Idol, 1980)
I swear I did not look for songs that were published in the 80s but this is another one.
Most people think this song is about masturbation. In fact that is a legend which never seems to die. But Billy Idol once told in an interview with the “Rolling Stone” magazine: “The song really is about people being in a disenfranchised world where they’re left bereft, dancing with their own reflections.”
No matter what it’s really about it’s still a fantastic song.
Let’s get a little wilder and louder. Another one from the 80s. I swear it’s a coincidence. Really!
“You shook me all night long”, from AC/DC, released 1980
Part of the text goes like this:
“Taking more than her share, had me fighting for air She told me to come but I was already there The walls start shaking, earth was quaking My mind was aching, we were making it
And you shook me all night long
Yeah, you shook me all night long…”
To be honest I think this is a very harmless text, very calm written and not really offending.
A little bit different is the next one.
“Brown Sugar”, Rolling Stones, released 1971
Part of the song has this lyrics:
“Gold Coast slave ship bound for cotton fields Sold in the market down in New Orleans Scarred old slaver knows he’s doin’ all right Hear him whip the women just around midnight Brown Sugar, how come you taste so good Brown Sugar, just like a young girl Drums beatin’ cold, English blood runs hot Lady of the house wonderin’ when it’s gonna stop House boy knows that he’s doin’ all right You should have heard him just around midnight Brown Sugar, how come you taste so good Brown Sugar, just like a young girl should…”
Seems to be about sex between masters and slaves but after some years the idea came up that this song was about a different “brown sugar” called heroin. Yes, I know, mostly it’s white but let me tell you all that there is also brown heroin. Especially the text part: “How can you taste so good now” led to this idea.
I wish all my followers and readers a happy weekend and spice up your life with some good music.