A column …
Personal thoughts of a sadistic Master
My dear readers!
The majority of people do SM to have some fun and to spice up their sexual life every now and then. And that is totally ok if you just “use” SM every now and then. How do they say? Each his own? So that´s the motto, you should use for your own. But not everybody wants SM just a few times to happen. Some of us feel the need, to go the whole way and become real slaves. “Real slaves”. That sounds weird, right? Is this even possible to become a real slave? Does real slavery exist?
Does “real slavery”, a total slavery lifestyle, exist?
Yes, real slavery does exist. It is just a handful of men who are real enslavers and who offer the consensual lifestyle of real slavery to boys and men, but this circle exists, and I am one of these men. Where is now the big difference between real, but consensual, slavery and a normal session? The answer is very simple and very complicated at the same time. In a normal session you agree to the kind of things you would like to have done and that you would like to experience. In most cases the slave is allowed to use a safeword and by allowing that the slave is able to really have control over the whole session. The next big difference is that in a normal session it is about to have fun and to get to the sexual climax. Most Sirs lose interest in being dominant after they shot their load. Then usually they start to hug, cuddle and kiss and a lot of affection is involved in such a session. Real slavery doesn´t necessarily have to include sex. Yes, it´s possible, that your master will use you for sex and it´s even possible, that he will allow you to jerk off every now and then but even if he or you shot your loads the slavery doesn´t end. Real slavery continues after anybody has reached his climax. It doesn´t stop and it doesn´t end. That´s the big difference when you compare real slavery with a normal session.
If you want or offer real slavery you usually have other things in mind than having sex. In real slavery it is about to see the development of a slave over a long, long time. Another big difference compared to a “normal SM-session” is that for real slavery you usually don´t want to have any kind of control. If you think about real, but consensual, enslavement you usually have the desire to experience what it is like to really be a slave. You usually want to know what it feels like to be out of any control and to be really treated like a slave. If you think about real slavery you mostly have the desire to be kept naked, chained, and collared and to be used for labor, torture, house chores, combined with humiliating, dehumanizing treatment. And as a real slave you are aware that you can be shared to other slave owners or used for being rented out or be degraded to a work as a whore and other methods to make money for your owner.
Losing rights and privileges
The next big difference is, that a real slave loses all rights and privileges and becomes totally dependent from his owner. The owner of the slave alone will decide when the slave eats, sleeps, drinks and what he is used for. A real slave doesn´t have a normal life anymore. There are no normal things like going shopping, meeting with friends, visiting clubs or similar things that you do as a free person in a normal life. Your life will depend on your owner and on his moods. Losing all privileges also includes, of course, sexual privileges you might have enjoyed in your former life. You loved to watch porn videos and used to wank to them? That will be over if you become a real slave. It is almost 100% sure that your dick will be locked and your whole sexual pleasure will be controlled by your owner.
Changes over time/ Longtime development
At the beginning of this article, I mentioned, that the long-term aspect is usually the most important one. Real slaves get molded. That means that there look usually changes after some time. Slaves either get new hairstyles, or they get trained physically to become more muscular, or slimmer, or become ripped. It´s also possible that your owner will change other aspects of your physical appearance. One example for this is body hair. Slaves get ordered to let their grow, to cut it or to shave it or trim their body hair. Another aspect, that is usually only done to real, owned slaves is the aspect of signing your slave. Real slaves always get signed as the property of their owner. This is either done with a tattoo or with a real branding. The signing of a slave is something that will never be done in a session. If you are one of the lucky slaves that are used as house slaves, you might even be allowed to wear clothes. Needless to say that your outfit will also be chosen and controlled by your owner. Real slavery is something that is done over a long period of time. Usually many years. During this time the slave normally gets trained in many different aspects. Let´s start with the basics. Slaves have to learn how to kneel right when they provide oral services. They need to learn how to kneel or stand if they get inspected. They need to learn how to kneel or stand when they are just ordered to wait , until their owner wants to use them again. You get an idea of what I want to point out. These protocols or rituals are things that are created between each slave and his owner and that, of course, vary, from slave owner to slave owner. These rituals and protocols have their own dynamics and spice up the relationship between a slave and his owner. These things can only be developed, if a slave gets really enslaved and owned.
The environment and the way, slaves are kept
The most sessions take place in fancy “playrooms”. Nice, cozy carpets, heaters everywhere, comfortable beds and sofas or they happen in gay sex clubs where the bottom/sub gets shown off and than fucked by a countless number of tops. Well at least that´s what you see in most SM porn videos, right? Reality can also be like this, if sex is your number one motivation to do SM, but than it has nothing to do with real slavery! Real slaves are kept in dungeons and cells. If you are lucky enough, to meet a real slaver, you will very likely experience cold, dirty, and isolated places. You will be kept in cages or cells, sleep on the cold, naked ground of a dungeon and the use of toilets or even showers will be very restricted. It may even be, that you will be stored in a barn or a stable, that is outside of your owner´s house. And if you meet a slaver who owns such a property with these possibilities, it´s also very likely, that you will be used for hard labor in this environment. Sessions will never give you the opportunity, to experience all of these things, I wrote about. At least not, until you will serve on a very regular base with a real slaver.
You have to make up your mind, what you want in your life. If you just want to play but don´t want to give up your normal life, than sessions should be the first choice for you. If you want to make experiences that go much deeper and which will be much more intense you should think about the real deal but also about the consequences that this step would mean for you. If you want to know more about the world of real slavery, don´t hesitate to get in touch with me.
I wish all my readers a happy Sunday and hope to see you again at my next column.